Aladdin: Princess Jasmine, you're very...
Genie: Wonderful! Magnificent! Glorious!... Punctual!
Aladdin: Punctual!
Princess Jasmine: Punctual?
Genie: Sorry.
Aladdin: Uh... uh... beautiful!
Genie: Nice recovery.
For some reason, I have always been deathly afraid of being late to things. I’m afraid of missing out on information or excitement, of letting someone down, of standing someone up, or of not respecting someone’s time, or whatever. No matter what the occasion- be it a practice, a party, a meeting- I have got to show up on time. The idea of being fashionably late has no appeal. If I say I'm going to be there at 5:37, then I will be there at 5:37.
Recently, however, I have started to realize that most of the world does not share my views. I tell people that something starts at 4, and they don’t come til 4:15. I show up to an event “starting” at 8, and it doesn’t actually get going until 8:45. So rare is the event that actually starts when it says it will. And even rarer is the event when all the participants show up on time. People either do not take the responsibility of checking the clock and managing themselves to show up on time, or else they purposely come late to make an appearance or play some silly social game.
And so I come to a crossroads. Do I conform to the world by showing up late to things and save myself countless hours of standing around waiting for people? Or do I continue showing up on the nose, feeling snuggly self-justified and slighty irritated towards others? Or do I mix the two by showing up on time and expecting others to show up late, thus not creating violated expectations when they are indeed late? It will probably have to be the third option. Maybe I’ll just always carry a crossword puzzle in my back pocket to save the time.
I don’t know. Is being late to things morally wrong? Is it a form of lying? I think in some ways it is. Or is it just culture? And is following a culture wrong? Can I blame a culture? Personally, I think Aladdin was right on—punctuality is a great trait for anyone and is a reflection of their respect to other people. Because think about it, every time you’re late you are making somebody wait on you. It’s basically saying, “yeah, whatever I am doing is more important than whatever you had planned.”
But I choose not to base any anger on a societal norm. Because anger is a choice, just as what we set our expectations to be is a choice.
Yeah, I’ll just stick with the crossword puzzle.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Status
The other day in my acting class we were doing a thing called a “status exercise”. My teacher pointed out that all day long human interactions are based on “status” flexing its muscles, bending down to another, or dynamically changing. In this exercise, in a matter of moments, each one of us would say or do things to raise or lower our status within the group. Someone would apologize, give a compliment, admit to a weakness, feign popularity, give a command, submit to another’s suggestion, etc. The “status change” could be tangibly felt.
How do you talk to your little brother? In some degree or another it is influenced by the fact that your “status” is higher. Now say that your mother walks into the same room. I bet you that the way you act will change a bit, in some part to defer to her “higher” status. When I’m at college the dynamics and status’s of my life are different than when I’m home for Christmas in my parent’s house. Sometimes we call status names, like “Senior companion”, “Chief Executive Officer”, “Father”, “Manager”, “Director”, but most of the time status’ are simply felt, implied, and understood.
As a missionary in Taiwan, we saw this status fluctuation all the time. Taiwanese people in general think Americans are the bomb. They place an American’s status above their own and treat them well and defer to their actions or words. If a Taiwanese didn’t know I was a missionary, I received this treatment. As soon as he saw the missionary tag, however, they would often treat me poorly, ignoring me, cussing at me, or treating me like a child, since they were used to seeing missionaries and treating them this way. Travis didn’t change, but all of a sudden my status in the eyes of that person changed drastically. Don’t we do the same in restaurants too? A nice young lady would be treated very well in most situations. But once she’s got that “McDonalds” namebadge on and she is “slow” on an order or messes up, she is treated like someone with a lower status.
Status is different than “popularity”, although sometimes synonymous. High School most clearly defines status in terms of preps down to nerds and the totem pole in between. Some people feel their status is higher. Oftentimes the confident people will be the ones who act in the highest status. Maybe that’s why we dash on a bit of cologne or try to look or best or act certain ways—to give us that edge of confidence and that up in status among our peers.
Gender, race, personality (reds and yellows may feel their status is higher than others), and tons of factors can lead to influencing status. Relationships too are influenced by who “feels” in charge.
And again, status one way or another isn’t necessarily good or bad. This was simply an observation and something that is very real. So my invitation to you today is to analyze your relationships with your family, roommates, teachers, neighbors, waitresses, plumbers, and anyone else. And think about what your status dynamic with that person is, and if it’s where you want it to be.
See, status isn’t just a facebook term. It’s a way of life.
How do you talk to your little brother? In some degree or another it is influenced by the fact that your “status” is higher. Now say that your mother walks into the same room. I bet you that the way you act will change a bit, in some part to defer to her “higher” status. When I’m at college the dynamics and status’s of my life are different than when I’m home for Christmas in my parent’s house. Sometimes we call status names, like “Senior companion”, “Chief Executive Officer”, “Father”, “Manager”, “Director”, but most of the time status’ are simply felt, implied, and understood.
As a missionary in Taiwan, we saw this status fluctuation all the time. Taiwanese people in general think Americans are the bomb. They place an American’s status above their own and treat them well and defer to their actions or words. If a Taiwanese didn’t know I was a missionary, I received this treatment. As soon as he saw the missionary tag, however, they would often treat me poorly, ignoring me, cussing at me, or treating me like a child, since they were used to seeing missionaries and treating them this way. Travis didn’t change, but all of a sudden my status in the eyes of that person changed drastically. Don’t we do the same in restaurants too? A nice young lady would be treated very well in most situations. But once she’s got that “McDonalds” namebadge on and she is “slow” on an order or messes up, she is treated like someone with a lower status.
Status is different than “popularity”, although sometimes synonymous. High School most clearly defines status in terms of preps down to nerds and the totem pole in between. Some people feel their status is higher. Oftentimes the confident people will be the ones who act in the highest status. Maybe that’s why we dash on a bit of cologne or try to look or best or act certain ways—to give us that edge of confidence and that up in status among our peers.
Gender, race, personality (reds and yellows may feel their status is higher than others), and tons of factors can lead to influencing status. Relationships too are influenced by who “feels” in charge.
And again, status one way or another isn’t necessarily good or bad. This was simply an observation and something that is very real. So my invitation to you today is to analyze your relationships with your family, roommates, teachers, neighbors, waitresses, plumbers, and anyone else. And think about what your status dynamic with that person is, and if it’s where you want it to be.
See, status isn’t just a facebook term. It’s a way of life.
Monday, September 27, 2010
The Rise of All Conflict
Stop and think of the last time you got upset, mad, or bothered about something. With 99% accuracy I can tell you the basic cause of that controversy. VIOLATED EXPECTATIONS. In our mind we expect things to be a certain way. We expect our friend to treat us the way we would like, we expect to get that part we wanted in the play, we expect that that car next to us is going to stay in its own lane and not cut us off, we expect to not get the flu or the cold, we expect that our 5 year old sibling is not going to break the cookie jar. We inadvertently lay out all these expectations for ourselves and our world, and then without fail they are broken. And thus, with VIOLATED EXPECTATIONS there is controversy.
And SO, what you’ve got to do is change your expectation and you can be happy all the time. I don’t get mad or upset about things. Have you seen it happen? Bet you haven’t. The kid is 5, of course he’s probably going to break the cookie jar, so when he does break the cookie jar just enjoy the fact that he’s a fun little kid. It’s a highway---just pretend like the guy in the next lane first opened his window and said, “hey buddy, in about 4 seconds I’m going to drive in front of you and cut you off”. And then when he does, it will be quite a pleasurable experience. Therefore, I invite you all to do two things:
1. Clarify Expectations for others: tell that girl when you’re going to call and how often and she won’t ever get upset or anxious since the expectations have been laid. If you tell her, “hey I’m just going to call twice a week”, then when you don’t call her every day she won’t be mad or hurt at all. She’ll think you’re responsible. Tell your new roommate exactly what they should expect about your messy habits. I had a roommate at college who told us he would do the dishes when his turn came around, but he didn’t and everyone was upset (except me ). If he had told us right away that, “Hey guys, I have trouble doing the dishes and I probably won’t do them”, then we would have all felt pleasantly smart as we watched his prophecy come true.
2. Expect the Obvious: of course that kid is going to cry-he’s two. Of course it’s going to rain on the picnic day—and if you expected it then it’ll be again, a pleasant experience!
I'm not saying be pessimistic. Quite the contrary. But optimism is different than expectation. Run in smooth harmony with how the world is going and you'll be very successful.
On my mission in Taiwan my mission president Michael Hoer laid the underlying principles behind this theory and he is one of the happiest, most successful people I know. He has lived in a different culture most of his life and rather than trying to change the world around him to meet his expectations, he loves life and the Chinese culture around him, and makes sure to expect what is going to happen with the food, traffic, customs, etc..
Clarify expectations and have the right expectations yourself. Think again of that last time you were mad or had conflict and I bet that now you can see precisely why it happened. You expected one thing, perhaps subconsciously, and got another.
I am going to end this article in exactly 6 words.
See, wasn’t that a pleasant experience.
And SO, what you’ve got to do is change your expectation and you can be happy all the time. I don’t get mad or upset about things. Have you seen it happen? Bet you haven’t. The kid is 5, of course he’s probably going to break the cookie jar, so when he does break the cookie jar just enjoy the fact that he’s a fun little kid. It’s a highway---just pretend like the guy in the next lane first opened his window and said, “hey buddy, in about 4 seconds I’m going to drive in front of you and cut you off”. And then when he does, it will be quite a pleasurable experience. Therefore, I invite you all to do two things:
1. Clarify Expectations for others: tell that girl when you’re going to call and how often and she won’t ever get upset or anxious since the expectations have been laid. If you tell her, “hey I’m just going to call twice a week”, then when you don’t call her every day she won’t be mad or hurt at all. She’ll think you’re responsible. Tell your new roommate exactly what they should expect about your messy habits. I had a roommate at college who told us he would do the dishes when his turn came around, but he didn’t and everyone was upset (except me ). If he had told us right away that, “Hey guys, I have trouble doing the dishes and I probably won’t do them”, then we would have all felt pleasantly smart as we watched his prophecy come true.
2. Expect the Obvious: of course that kid is going to cry-he’s two. Of course it’s going to rain on the picnic day—and if you expected it then it’ll be again, a pleasant experience!
I'm not saying be pessimistic. Quite the contrary. But optimism is different than expectation. Run in smooth harmony with how the world is going and you'll be very successful.
On my mission in Taiwan my mission president Michael Hoer laid the underlying principles behind this theory and he is one of the happiest, most successful people I know. He has lived in a different culture most of his life and rather than trying to change the world around him to meet his expectations, he loves life and the Chinese culture around him, and makes sure to expect what is going to happen with the food, traffic, customs, etc..
Clarify expectations and have the right expectations yourself. Think again of that last time you were mad or had conflict and I bet that now you can see precisely why it happened. You expected one thing, perhaps subconsciously, and got another.
I am going to end this article in exactly 6 words.
See, wasn’t that a pleasant experience.
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
The Twilight Series: Not Just For Teenage Girls
Twilight.
The very word incites thoughts, memories, or feelings of love or hate, disgust or adoration, bliss or loathing. Whether you want to admit it or not, the 4-book series by Stephanie Meyer is a cultural phenomenon. It has changed pop culture and society much in the way that Harry Potter (but don’t freak out on me, I know not to the same extent) did a few years earlier and the way that Lord of the Rings did during its day. Edward, Bella, Jacob, werewolves, and vampires have left their marks.
I was out of the country when Twilight first hit and really had never heard of it, but the minute I landed in America in May ’09 I started hearing opinions about it. The most common phrases I heard basically alluded to the idea that if you liked Twilight and were not a junior high female then you were girly or misled or should have your “man-card” taken away from you. Bella’s character has been constantly called “weak and whiny”, and Edward’s, “creepy and stalker-like”. It appears to be the “popular” thing to do to criticize Twilight, because that’s what everyone else is doing. Much in the way that it is “popular” to think Wicked is the greatest thing since sliced bread (see two entries below). It’s so much easier to follow the crowd rather than really look at something and see what value it has.
The kicker though, is that most critics, willing to admit it or not, base their judgments solely on the first couple Twilight movies (which really do not do the books justice, and are admittedly tacky), maybe the first book (which I’ll be honest- took more self-motivation to finish than the other three by far), and what they’ve heard on the street. Ignorant criticism is childish and annoying. IF YOU HAVEN’T READ THE WHOLE SERIES, or at least a couple of the books, then how in the world can you criticize them. That’s like saying I hate the country of Luxembourg because of things I’ve heard about it, even though I’ve never been there.
So I decided to read them. No matter what the genre, if something is going to cause this big of a stir in the most powerful country in the world and it’s not super morally-backwards, then it deserves a shot. So for the past week and a half or so, I sucked (no pun intended) it up and read the series.
My observation: Twilight deserves most of the praise that it gets, and very little of the criticism. Here’s why.
-Above all, Stephanie Meyer creates a world and invites us in. I call it Harry Potter-izing us. The reason people loved Harry Potter so much is because JK Rowling painted a beautiful picture of the wizarding world and we all felt like we were a part of it. We got to go inside. And she based it on the premise that it truly is possible that wizards are here living among us and we were simply oblivious Muggles. Meyer did the same thing. I felt like I knew the city of Forks, the La Push Indian reservation, and the woods surrounding the little Washington town. It felt like Bella and Charlie, the Werewolf tribe, and the Vampire clans really existed. Meyer made it possible for mortals and these mythological creatures to co-exist. She created a world and made it easy to step inside it and lose ourselves in it.
-When I turn on “Terminator”, what should I expect? Fluffy bunnies and a cute little love story? No. I expect a bunch of shooting, action, and destruction. Stephanie Meyer did not falsely advertise. She made it blatantly clear that this was mostly based on a love story, much in the way that Romeo and Juliet is blatantly a love story. So it was not disappointing or gross or weird when Bella fell for Edward. Or when Edward did everything he could to protect her (hence, the stalker comments). Or when Bella lost a big piece of herself when Edward left (hence, the whiney Bella comments). It’s a love story, and a good one. What do you expect? Edward to not be protective when he’s so accustomed to killing things? Bella to just pretend like nothing happened when her first love dumps her out of nowhere? No.
-That being said, there was a lot more action and non-love story parts to this story then I think anyone expected. I did not expect the international Vampire council to rip someone’s limbs off and set them on fire, nor to consume 40 something tourists in the city. I did not expect detailed descriptions of Edward ripping two Bella-hunting vampires to pieces or of him being tortured to convulsions by the psycho vampire Jane. I did not expect the sweet action of Indian boys transforming into Werewolves, thinking as one body, and pursuing and killing newborn vampires by the dozens.
-This story has some amazing character development. Particularly in Bella. As many are so quick to mention, Bella can come off as annoying at first. But I think that’s the point. In the first book she is still a high school girl, although much more mature than most. She doesn’t fit in to school because she has already grown up and gotten past the unimportant high school drama, as demonstrated by a comparison of her to her friends Mike and Jessica. But yes, in the first few books she is a little selfish. She thinks of herself and of ways that she can be with Edward to please her. But she changes. She develops friendships with Jacob. She learns to help other people and sacrifice. At one point she nearly kills herself in an attempt to save the others. She learns what it means to be married and committed. And eventually she learns to be a mother. She is willing to die so that her child can be born. Her obsession with Edward becomes real love and she learns to share that with her daughter. In the ending battle it is Bella that saves everyone. She learns to develop an inner power to shield others, not worrying about the effects it will have on herself. I really came to respect Bella and the changes she made. Sure she was sometimes irrational, but for the most part I think she’s a good example to young people about helping others and learning what real love is.
-Meyer’s characters are believable. She creates such real characters, I’d venture to say even more believable than JK Rowling does. Bella’s father Charlie has such a distinct personality of the slightly-awkward father who loves his daughter but doesn’t know exactly how to raise her. Bella’s slightly emo attitude is, let’s face it, very common in today’s society. Jacob’s bright attitude and gradual infatuation and love for Bella make it feel like we really know who Jacob is. Alice Cullen is quirky and hilarious. Mike is every bit of the over-exuberant high school senior as I met every day at my own high school. Jessica is described perfectly in her focus on the tiny high school drama. And the Cullen family is remarkable. The wise and truly good Carlisle, the motherly Esme, the jealous beauty queen Rosalie, the self-evaluating Jasper, the perfectly described big brother Emmett. Even the nomad ex-Revolutionary War solider Garrett is like someone you’d find off of “The Patriot”. Part of the reason we can enter into the Twilight world is that the people in it are so real.
-Twilight is full of really clever humor. There were many a page when something really funny would come out of no where and I’d find myself reading it again, asking, “really? Did that just happen?”. Three of my favorites were in the movie theatre when Bella finds herself between Mike and Jacob, both of them with their hands on the arm rest facing up, ready for Bella to make any kind of movement so they could grab her hand. I love in the last book how people keep calling Bella’s kid Nessie, even though it’s not her real name. And when the narrative is coming from Jacob’s point of view it is hilarious. Some of his chapter headings include, “Good Thing I’ve Got a Strong Stomach”, “The Two Things at the Very Top of my Things-I-Never-Want-To-Do- List”, and “Sure as hell Didn’t See that one Coming”.
-The whole Team Edward vs. Team Jacob thing is not baseless. You really find yourself rooting for one or the other for most of the series. I didn’t realize that Jacob played such a huge role in the series. I love how he is there the whole time, playing different roles and always part of the story. Definitely my favorite character. Although, for the record, the 4th book landed me into Team Edward.
-Some of the vampires have special abilities and two of them provide a different view into things. Edward can read everyone’s thoughts. So all of a sudden we can know what each character is thinking. It’s a psychologically interesting observation. And Alice sees the future based on when people make decisions that affect the future. It was cool to see how one decision made now will affect what happens days or weeks or months down the road.
-There are many intricate symbolisms involved in the story. The most prominent one is that of overcoming our desires in order to do the right thing. They demonstrate this by Edward and eventually Bella overcoming their desire to murder people and drink blood and instead doing the morally correct thing. It takes sacrifice but it’s worth it.
-As a Mormon, I recognized many of our beliefs written in the pages of Stephanie Meyer’s own Mormon ideologies. Two of the most obvious being that we believe sex should be saved until after marriage, which I thought was very well portrayed. And the other being that we believe that if done right, a married couple can live together forever, even after death.
-My favorite part of the story was the werewolves. I loved the Indian legends, the genetics, and the technicalities of how they became werewolves. In the wolf form, they all shared each other’s thoughts. This book is full of people entering each other’s minds, which adds a whole new dimension.
Well that was by far the longest blog I’ve ever written, but I felt like it needed to be said. The Twilight series is excellent and now I can clearly see why it has had the impact that it did and continues to have. Sure, it’s not perfect. Sure, there’s romance. But there’s a lot more to it then people sometimes give it credit for. It’s worth the read and there’s a lot in there to enjoy, discover, and mull over. The ending is great and I left feeling like it was time well-spent reading those thick books.
Kudos to you Stephanie Meyer. Well done. If you write another series I’ll go and read it.
In the words of the vampire Garrett, “I came to witness. I stay to fight”. Twilight is seriously worth a shot.
The very word incites thoughts, memories, or feelings of love or hate, disgust or adoration, bliss or loathing. Whether you want to admit it or not, the 4-book series by Stephanie Meyer is a cultural phenomenon. It has changed pop culture and society much in the way that Harry Potter (but don’t freak out on me, I know not to the same extent) did a few years earlier and the way that Lord of the Rings did during its day. Edward, Bella, Jacob, werewolves, and vampires have left their marks.
I was out of the country when Twilight first hit and really had never heard of it, but the minute I landed in America in May ’09 I started hearing opinions about it. The most common phrases I heard basically alluded to the idea that if you liked Twilight and were not a junior high female then you were girly or misled or should have your “man-card” taken away from you. Bella’s character has been constantly called “weak and whiny”, and Edward’s, “creepy and stalker-like”. It appears to be the “popular” thing to do to criticize Twilight, because that’s what everyone else is doing. Much in the way that it is “popular” to think Wicked is the greatest thing since sliced bread (see two entries below). It’s so much easier to follow the crowd rather than really look at something and see what value it has.
The kicker though, is that most critics, willing to admit it or not, base their judgments solely on the first couple Twilight movies (which really do not do the books justice, and are admittedly tacky), maybe the first book (which I’ll be honest- took more self-motivation to finish than the other three by far), and what they’ve heard on the street. Ignorant criticism is childish and annoying. IF YOU HAVEN’T READ THE WHOLE SERIES, or at least a couple of the books, then how in the world can you criticize them. That’s like saying I hate the country of Luxembourg because of things I’ve heard about it, even though I’ve never been there.
So I decided to read them. No matter what the genre, if something is going to cause this big of a stir in the most powerful country in the world and it’s not super morally-backwards, then it deserves a shot. So for the past week and a half or so, I sucked (no pun intended) it up and read the series.
My observation: Twilight deserves most of the praise that it gets, and very little of the criticism. Here’s why.
-Above all, Stephanie Meyer creates a world and invites us in. I call it Harry Potter-izing us. The reason people loved Harry Potter so much is because JK Rowling painted a beautiful picture of the wizarding world and we all felt like we were a part of it. We got to go inside. And she based it on the premise that it truly is possible that wizards are here living among us and we were simply oblivious Muggles. Meyer did the same thing. I felt like I knew the city of Forks, the La Push Indian reservation, and the woods surrounding the little Washington town. It felt like Bella and Charlie, the Werewolf tribe, and the Vampire clans really existed. Meyer made it possible for mortals and these mythological creatures to co-exist. She created a world and made it easy to step inside it and lose ourselves in it.
-When I turn on “Terminator”, what should I expect? Fluffy bunnies and a cute little love story? No. I expect a bunch of shooting, action, and destruction. Stephanie Meyer did not falsely advertise. She made it blatantly clear that this was mostly based on a love story, much in the way that Romeo and Juliet is blatantly a love story. So it was not disappointing or gross or weird when Bella fell for Edward. Or when Edward did everything he could to protect her (hence, the stalker comments). Or when Bella lost a big piece of herself when Edward left (hence, the whiney Bella comments). It’s a love story, and a good one. What do you expect? Edward to not be protective when he’s so accustomed to killing things? Bella to just pretend like nothing happened when her first love dumps her out of nowhere? No.
-That being said, there was a lot more action and non-love story parts to this story then I think anyone expected. I did not expect the international Vampire council to rip someone’s limbs off and set them on fire, nor to consume 40 something tourists in the city. I did not expect detailed descriptions of Edward ripping two Bella-hunting vampires to pieces or of him being tortured to convulsions by the psycho vampire Jane. I did not expect the sweet action of Indian boys transforming into Werewolves, thinking as one body, and pursuing and killing newborn vampires by the dozens.
-This story has some amazing character development. Particularly in Bella. As many are so quick to mention, Bella can come off as annoying at first. But I think that’s the point. In the first book she is still a high school girl, although much more mature than most. She doesn’t fit in to school because she has already grown up and gotten past the unimportant high school drama, as demonstrated by a comparison of her to her friends Mike and Jessica. But yes, in the first few books she is a little selfish. She thinks of herself and of ways that she can be with Edward to please her. But she changes. She develops friendships with Jacob. She learns to help other people and sacrifice. At one point she nearly kills herself in an attempt to save the others. She learns what it means to be married and committed. And eventually she learns to be a mother. She is willing to die so that her child can be born. Her obsession with Edward becomes real love and she learns to share that with her daughter. In the ending battle it is Bella that saves everyone. She learns to develop an inner power to shield others, not worrying about the effects it will have on herself. I really came to respect Bella and the changes she made. Sure she was sometimes irrational, but for the most part I think she’s a good example to young people about helping others and learning what real love is.
-Meyer’s characters are believable. She creates such real characters, I’d venture to say even more believable than JK Rowling does. Bella’s father Charlie has such a distinct personality of the slightly-awkward father who loves his daughter but doesn’t know exactly how to raise her. Bella’s slightly emo attitude is, let’s face it, very common in today’s society. Jacob’s bright attitude and gradual infatuation and love for Bella make it feel like we really know who Jacob is. Alice Cullen is quirky and hilarious. Mike is every bit of the over-exuberant high school senior as I met every day at my own high school. Jessica is described perfectly in her focus on the tiny high school drama. And the Cullen family is remarkable. The wise and truly good Carlisle, the motherly Esme, the jealous beauty queen Rosalie, the self-evaluating Jasper, the perfectly described big brother Emmett. Even the nomad ex-Revolutionary War solider Garrett is like someone you’d find off of “The Patriot”. Part of the reason we can enter into the Twilight world is that the people in it are so real.
-Twilight is full of really clever humor. There were many a page when something really funny would come out of no where and I’d find myself reading it again, asking, “really? Did that just happen?”. Three of my favorites were in the movie theatre when Bella finds herself between Mike and Jacob, both of them with their hands on the arm rest facing up, ready for Bella to make any kind of movement so they could grab her hand. I love in the last book how people keep calling Bella’s kid Nessie, even though it’s not her real name. And when the narrative is coming from Jacob’s point of view it is hilarious. Some of his chapter headings include, “Good Thing I’ve Got a Strong Stomach”, “The Two Things at the Very Top of my Things-I-Never-Want-To-Do- List”, and “Sure as hell Didn’t See that one Coming”.
-The whole Team Edward vs. Team Jacob thing is not baseless. You really find yourself rooting for one or the other for most of the series. I didn’t realize that Jacob played such a huge role in the series. I love how he is there the whole time, playing different roles and always part of the story. Definitely my favorite character. Although, for the record, the 4th book landed me into Team Edward.
-Some of the vampires have special abilities and two of them provide a different view into things. Edward can read everyone’s thoughts. So all of a sudden we can know what each character is thinking. It’s a psychologically interesting observation. And Alice sees the future based on when people make decisions that affect the future. It was cool to see how one decision made now will affect what happens days or weeks or months down the road.
-There are many intricate symbolisms involved in the story. The most prominent one is that of overcoming our desires in order to do the right thing. They demonstrate this by Edward and eventually Bella overcoming their desire to murder people and drink blood and instead doing the morally correct thing. It takes sacrifice but it’s worth it.
-As a Mormon, I recognized many of our beliefs written in the pages of Stephanie Meyer’s own Mormon ideologies. Two of the most obvious being that we believe sex should be saved until after marriage, which I thought was very well portrayed. And the other being that we believe that if done right, a married couple can live together forever, even after death.
-My favorite part of the story was the werewolves. I loved the Indian legends, the genetics, and the technicalities of how they became werewolves. In the wolf form, they all shared each other’s thoughts. This book is full of people entering each other’s minds, which adds a whole new dimension.
Well that was by far the longest blog I’ve ever written, but I felt like it needed to be said. The Twilight series is excellent and now I can clearly see why it has had the impact that it did and continues to have. Sure, it’s not perfect. Sure, there’s romance. But there’s a lot more to it then people sometimes give it credit for. It’s worth the read and there’s a lot in there to enjoy, discover, and mull over. The ending is great and I left feeling like it was time well-spent reading those thick books.
Kudos to you Stephanie Meyer. Well done. If you write another series I’ll go and read it.
In the words of the vampire Garrett, “I came to witness. I stay to fight”. Twilight is seriously worth a shot.
Sunday, August 15, 2010
I. Hate. Mustard.
Mustard, celery, dried onions, baked potatoes. Nasty. My taste buds just didn’t agree with those textures, tastes, and ingredients. It wasn’t something I could help, right? It’s just who I was. Those were the foods that I did. not. like.
Then one day a few years ago I stopped and thought about it. Do I really not like mustard? Or did some bad experience as a kid just ingrain in my mind that I didn’t like it? Had it just become a natural reaction to see mustard and cringe? So I decided upon an experiment. I would eat the mustard, but with the mindset that I indeed did like it. I squirted it on my hotdog, took a bite, and was amazed by how great it tasted. My mindset changed, and now I’ll put mustard on sandwiches and hotdogs all the time. It was all in my head!
In the coming months I had similar experiences with dried onions and baked potatoes. And just last week I found a piece of celery on my plate, changed my mindset, and ate up. And it was good. Of course, eating pigs blood, fish eyes, and frog skin in Taiwan helped me soften up a bit, but it was really just my change in attitude that led these “detestable” foods back into my life. Now, I proudly brag to my mother that there is no food that I don’t like. All foods are good and offer some kind of value. Why miss out on a unique taste just because of a silly unconscious decision?
So lately I’m on this big kick: You can like any food if you decide to. It’s ALL in your head. And so now everyday when I hear someone whine about not wanting tomatoes on their burger, or wanting bottled water because the tap water is just not the same, or about hating diet but loving regular soda, or about someone refusing to eat sausage on their pizza or picking the mushrooms off---I just think in my head, “dude, get over it. It’s all in your mind.” Just decide to like things and you will!
Bon’appetit.
Then one day a few years ago I stopped and thought about it. Do I really not like mustard? Or did some bad experience as a kid just ingrain in my mind that I didn’t like it? Had it just become a natural reaction to see mustard and cringe? So I decided upon an experiment. I would eat the mustard, but with the mindset that I indeed did like it. I squirted it on my hotdog, took a bite, and was amazed by how great it tasted. My mindset changed, and now I’ll put mustard on sandwiches and hotdogs all the time. It was all in my head!
In the coming months I had similar experiences with dried onions and baked potatoes. And just last week I found a piece of celery on my plate, changed my mindset, and ate up. And it was good. Of course, eating pigs blood, fish eyes, and frog skin in Taiwan helped me soften up a bit, but it was really just my change in attitude that led these “detestable” foods back into my life. Now, I proudly brag to my mother that there is no food that I don’t like. All foods are good and offer some kind of value. Why miss out on a unique taste just because of a silly unconscious decision?
So lately I’m on this big kick: You can like any food if you decide to. It’s ALL in your head. And so now everyday when I hear someone whine about not wanting tomatoes on their burger, or wanting bottled water because the tap water is just not the same, or about hating diet but loving regular soda, or about someone refusing to eat sausage on their pizza or picking the mushrooms off---I just think in my head, “dude, get over it. It’s all in your mind.” Just decide to like things and you will!
Bon’appetit.
Sunday, August 8, 2010
"Wicked" Overrated? What?
In the years since it entered Broadway and began touring the country, I don’t believe I’ve ever heard a poor review about “Wicked”. This play depicts the events before and during the Wizard of Oz from the perspective of the witches. I’ve had friends and family travel hours, make weekend trips, and pay big money to go see it. Phenomenal they call it. Even before I knew what Wicked was, I was hearing girls croon to the songs “Defying Gravity” and “For Good” with starstruck eyes.
Well yesterday I had the chance to see it. Before entering the theatre I promised myself that I would give Wicked a fair chance and analyze it solely based on what I saw and heard, and not based on its reputation. My overall synopsis: Yes, ok, it’s good. But it’s not amazing. The plot was rather thin and baseless. Here’s the good things of the show:
The Good:
-The song “Defying Gravity”. Excellent lyrics, notes, and delivery. It was powerful, fit with the play, and I felt should have been the finale song. Great song! It’s the only song from Wicked that’s been stuck in my head since seeing the show.
-Galinda. Her character was cute and querky and hilarious. They hit this one right on the nose depicting a “popular” attitude of our culture. I loved seeing her development through the play as well. Seeing her change from being totally self-centered to truly caring for her friend was cool.
-The set/costumes/Broadway feel. Yeah, as far as all the technicality issues, they did a great job and made it very entertaining.
-Probably my favorite part of the show was how they tied in “The Wizard of Oz”. Like explaining why Dorothy had the slippers (“who steals a pair of slippers from a dead girl? What, were you raised in a barn?”, epic), how the tinman, scarecrow, and lion came to be, why the house killed Nessa, where and why the wizard was, the water “killing” the witch, etc.. I like clever things, and all of that was very well done. Kudos.
The Wicked:
-The main thing that bugged me was that Elphaba’s “drive” or “cause” to “save the animals” was not developed, explained, or shown. Ok, so she had a goat teacher. Yeah I get it that she was trying to help those who were “different”, but I didn’t really feel convinced as to why. Her whole life she wants to go see the wizard and then when he says one thing about putting the animals in cages, Elphaba goes off her rocker and becomes a fugitive. Then the second act we never actually see her saving animals or actually doing anything “good”. She shouldn’t have taken the hit so easily and so pointlessly from the Wizard or from Mrs. Morrible. That whole thing could have been done better.
-Elphaba always had such a, “I’m being persecuted but I’m a tough girl” attitude. It was annoying. The one time where she was refreshing and “real” was when she was in the woods with Fierra and said the line, “for the first time in my life, I feel….Wicked!”. That was cool and fun. But other than that her character never really developed or grew. She was what she was from the beginning: a good but misunderstood green person.
-On that note, the whole “be nice to those who are different” theme has been overdone by society and by media. The conservationist/racism/handicap thing was a little overbearing. Maybe if they had narrowed in. But instead we had a girl in a wheelchair, a girl with green skin, and repression of animals, OH and the repression of the Munckins by Governor Nessa. Lots and lots of repression in this flick.
-Speaking of Nessa: what the heck. I really did not see the point of her character. She had zero redeeming qualities, lived a tragic and bitter life, and then died. Even when we first meet her at the school, she is being snappy to Elphaba. She has low self-esteem that leads to her blindly accepting Broc, when her father dies she is a nasty governor, when she’s healed she is ungrateful to her ever-helpful sister, and when she gets crushed by the house I don’t think anyone in the audience feels bad. She was a miserable character who didn’t add much to the plot. Sure, she was different because of her handicap. But Elphaba and the goat man covered that “different” base and it was pretty unnecessary to add that piece.
-The Goat Man- besides one off-stage line shouted by the Lion, the goat man is the one time we hear animals talk. Maybe if we had seen more of them talk it would have been cool and easy to accept that ok, Oz has talking animals. But no, we’ve got a goat man who teaches at the school. What??? And he turns Elphaba into an animal-loving PITA member in the one scene they have together…in which he eats her lunch bag.
-The love understory was terrrrribly underdeveloped. They should have added to it or just taken it out. Here’s how it goes. Fierra is obviously a popular/slightly brainless guy. He apparently is a lazy jerk based on the scenes we see with him and his first song. Then out of no where, Elphaba’s spell doesn’t work on him (why???) when the whole class gets put under her magic, they save a lion cub together, and then all of a sudden they’re in love? Whaaaat? It happened too quick, there was no convincing in it, and he was also (like Nessa) a slightly pointless character. Same with Broc. So great, he goes to the dance and then SPENDS THE REST OF HIS LIFE with Nessa so that he can get in with Galinda. Whaaat? Then when Nessa’s legs are fixed, without even thinking Broc is like, “oh by the way, I never liked you. I liked that pretty girl for all these years. So…if we’re cool then I guess I’ll see ya later”. It was very unconvincing and very underdeveloped.
-The crowd has zero personality. They sway with the opinion of the Wizard or Galinda in a heartbeat. I did not bond to the chorus at all.
-The ending song was anti-climactic. It was slow and it left me wanting something more. And the lyrics bug me. “Who can say if I’ve changed for the better?”. So basically, who knows, maybe I’m a better person for it. Maybe not. No one can really tell. “But because I knew you I have been changed for good”. Isn’t “better” basically the same thing as “good”? I don’t know, kind of redundant/conflicting statements.
So in summary, I guess the main thing is a lack of motive in the characters. Motive is big for me and oftentimes it wasn’t presented very strongly WHY Elphaba was saving the animals, WHY Fierra loved Elphaba, WHY Nessa was always such a jerk, WHY they decided to bring a talking goat man into the story, etc..
After all that though, I am glad I finally got to see this show. It was a lot of fun and I’d love to see it again sometime. But I can honestly say that I don’t think it’s worth all of the hype that it has received. I’ve walked out of dozens of other plays and musicals (West Side, Les Mis, Phantom, Grease, Guys and Dolls, Pippin, South Pacific, Into the Woods, etc..) with a bigger since of completion and satisfaction in my chest. If characters from those musicals had a house fall on them, I might actually be upset.
And who knows, this review might not have changed you for the better. But because you read it, you have been changed for good. Yeah….do you see what I’m talking about?
And what’s with the talking goat?!?????
Friday, July 2, 2010
The Great Land
It’s a special place. The people are adventurous, the landscape is unbeatable, and the culture distinct. Alaskans have pride in their state, but it’s not like Texans. Texans have to be loud and boisterous about “everything being bigger in Texas” or whatever, but Alaskans know that they are awesome without even saying. It’s a silent pride, because anyone who visits will automatically feel and see the uniqueness and glory of this place. Cars are dirtier, beards are longer, grooves in the road remain from winter-studded tires, it’s never really dark (I’m going to miss having so many sunlight hours!), everyone is a good driver, the United States is referred to as the “lower 48”, and just about everyone owns a truck and a dog.
Going back home I feel a little braver. In Alaska there’s no distance too far, no adventure too tough, and no task too daunting. Alaska puts everything else into perspective and makes you realize that there is beauty everywhere and that the world isn’t so big after all. The people here welcome strangers, tourists, and summer workers with open arms—watching them leave at the end of the summer while the residents stay to tough out the cold, dark winter and keep Alaska running. During my job I would always ask the residents two questions: Are you originally from Alaska? No. How long have you been here? 20-30 something years. It seems that once people come here, they can't really go back.
I learned a lot from my job too. Working on call as a technician with pretty late hours taught me: I really can’t sacrifice evenings of social time!, doing handyman work brings a nice immediate satisfaction when done well, know what you’re getting into before you do it, and work as a team in whatever you do. I was alone a lot during the days, whether on a job or waiting for one, and that was tough. I definitely became better friends with myself, but I learned that it’s really a high priority for me to be around people and work and live together. I made many great, possibly life-long, friends while out here. Curtis, Devin, Stephanie, Emily, Rebecca, Gordon, Cohan, Lisha, Benji, Tanner, and Grace to name a few. The singles ward took me in and made me one of their own and gave me a family.
I’ll always remember my 2.5 months here in Alaska. It was such a blessing to be here. Forever I will recall Alaska as a beautiful, special, adventurous, tucked-away haven of the world. May God bless forever, The Great Land.
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